I have this book with me for a while next to my bed side table. I only read part of it because I get sleepy reading books, the title reminds me of how everything should be, it is called The life of Holiness, written for African Ordinands by The Reverend S.H. Childs.
One of the topic I like to discuss further from this book is respect for personality.
The two things that mold us is 1. People are brought up in different ways and 2. God makes each of us different for the purposes planned only by him.
I was born into a society where teachings are strict or parents did not teach well their children or children did not attend school or children work hard doing household chores since childhood. All of these changes our personality and we cannot blame one another for who we are. Why do families love each other? It is because they were brought up together the same way.
How can I make myself lovable and approachable to someone I truly hate? You start by applying number 2. Allow God to work on you as it should be and allow love in your heart. You respect another when you have love in your heart.
Matthew 7:12, “do for others what you want them to do for you: this is the meaning of the Law of Moses and of the teachings of the prophets.”
Romans 12:10, ” Love one another warmly as christians, and be eager to show respect for one another.”
Read 1 Samuel 16:, “Pay no attention to how tall and handsome he is. I have rejected him, because I do not judge as people judge. They look at the outward appearance, but i look at the heart.”
God chose you by looking at your heart, yes in the Bible he converted some heathen individuals such as Saul to Paul but he knew Paul would be a perfect christian to spread his words using his evil energetic character into something good. We always do not know the outcome, what we do know is how we treat others and present ourselves shows the kind of person we are.
The most important thing is if we respect ourselves.
Feeling bad about ourself for not loved in return is alright, you have done your part. It is not for you to judge the outcome, it is God’s.
Respect as you always do, love as you always loved, do not feel bad just because someone does not respect you.
Respecting people and how we treat people shows our heartfelt thoughts and feelings. People who do not respect us in return shows their heart is full of hatred and we cannot blame them. Hopefully how we respect them teaches them to change.